7 Love and Relationship Tips

Most relationships, even those built on love, start to fade with time. If both partners do nothing to improve the situation after some time they may hit a dead-end. However, there are a few things that can be done to sustain happy and strong relationship.

Here are most important love and relationship tips that you need to know in order to save passion and special bond that you and your beloved share:

1. Make sure to spend some quality time with your partner. Sometimes we get so caught up in insignificant daily worries that love is receded into the background. You have to take a conscious action to prevent that from happening. Find at least one weekend a month so the two of you could be together.

2. Take a conscious action to show your other half that you love him/her. Surprise your partner with unexpected gift. It doesn’t have to be big and expensive. It just has to come from your heart.

3. Show interest in your partner’s life. For example, you can say, “Hi. How was your day?” and listen to the answer attentively. The person that you love should not only see a lover in you, but also a friend to whom he/she can confide his/her worries and problems at any time.

4. Communicating is crucial in any relationships. If you don’t like something about your partner’s actions do not keep it inside, talk to him/her, even if it may result in an argument.

5. When having an argument, never use name-calling or refer to mistakes your beloved one has made in the past. It is not OK to humiliate or ridicule another person, even if he/she has hurt your feelings. This is not going to solve any problems on the contrary it will only make matters worse.

6. Try to find a proper balance, between dependence and independence. By being too independent and cold, you can distance yourself from a person that you love. But at the same time by being too needy or “clingy” you can make him/her feel trapped and irritated. Make sure that your other half knows that you need and love him/her, but don’t overdo it. For example, if you give your girlfriend a bouquet of roses for no reason, she will be very touched and happy. But if you are giving her a rose every single day, eventually she will get used to it and the gesture will lose its meaning.

7. And probably the most important tip – do not expect your partner be a mind reader! Men and women are different. They think differently, they feel differently, they act differently. If you want your special someone to do something for you – ask. Thoughts like, “If he would love me, he would do ….”, “I’m not talking to him until he apologizes for…” (when a guy has no clue of what he did wrong) are destructive and pointless.

You have to remember, that relationships are not only about fun and excitement. They take time and effort!

Tips For a Successful Long Distance Relationship

On a general note, relationships are often difficult to maintain even when the partners live in the same town and even when in the same house. Given this scenario, it becomes even more difficult when distance separate the partners. This distance may be because of one of the partners leaving far away for college, taking up a better job opportunity in another town, state or country, or going an expedition, etc.

Research suggests that long distance relationships do not break up at any greater rate than traditional, geographically close ones. In addition, several studies have discovered that the levels of relationship satisfaction, intimacy, trust, and commitment of long distance relationship partners are identical to those of their geographically close counterparts. However, they might worry more about infidelity, but they do not actually cheat more.

It is also an obvious fact that long distance relationships are much easier when you have known the other person for quite some time before the separation by distance. Those that have spent some months or years in a committed relationship will do fairly better in a long distance relationship as they already have a foundation on which to continue building on as against a new couple starting out afresh.

Long distance relationships are definitely on the rise but that does not mean they are for everyone. For those who really want it to work and are determined to find out where it can lead, developing a few disciplines and adding some creativity like the few listed below into this type of relationship can make all the difference.

Clarify Expectations

What are your expectations in this relationship and what rules do you have in place to guide you to seeing them accomplished. Do not just hope all things will work out right, have goals and a time-frame for their accomplishment. This will give the relationship a hope to live on. Do not push this aside; it is important you have a good plan of where you are both heading with this relationship.

Trust

This is the most important ingredient to make a long distance relationship work. The biggest issue with non-face-to-face communication is the lack of facial expression. This makes it so easy for words to be misinterpreted but unfortunately much harder to trust and stay positive. Since both of you are practically miles apart and apparently leading separate lives, without this element of trust, there is no chance whatsoever of the relationship surviving the turmoil in this kind of relationship.

Be Interested

There must be a sense of true interest in one another. There must be a deep-seated emotional connection between both of you and this is whether you have been together before you separated or you met through some other means like online dating services, email, or online chat rooms. It is not just about the physical attraction, this interest must transcend the ordinary, as it is the foundation of this relationship.

Make Advance Plans on Regular Visitations

Depending on the distance between you, it is advisable to discuss and plan on how often you intend to see each other. For this visit include activities like visiting towns where your partner is in, spending the weekend in fancy hotels, and general activities that will help make the meeting memorable.

Set Ground Rules

There are bound to be differences of opinion and you should anticipate changes in the course of the relationship. It is important you talk through these anticipated challenges and set ground rules for dealing with them from onset of the relationship. When you have these rules in place, it becomes easier to handle these challenges when they arise than when you leave them up to chance.

These rules may include things such as “no flirting while apart”, calling or emailing at least once a day or as deem fit by both parties, setting a time to see each other may be once in every one or two months etc. They may not seem necessary and too obvious but it is essential that you both have these agreed upon mutually.

Be Open and Express Yourself Always

While sharing the day-to-day events of things going on in each other lives, try talking about mundane, ordinary happenings, which will help in creating an air of normalcy in the relationship. Chip in details about an appointment you had with a new client, a new route you took to work today because of the traffic, and trivial things such as the turkey sandwich you had for lunch and probably how wonderful they cook at a new restaurant two blocks away from your Aunt Maureen’s place.

Send a Handwritten Letter

It is often easier to write more about how one feels than it is to say it most of the time, so occasionally write an extensive and intimate letter to your partner. Write about your inner state, what you are feeling, what you dream about most, a new inspiration or idea you just got, new or interesting poetry just for him or her or other things going on in your life that you feel like sharing.

To be more romantic, you could use a snail mail service to send your writings to your partner and include articles or local stories in the dailies that might be of particular interest to him or her. The beauty of seeing a mail in your mailbox from your loved is just exhilarating, as we have taken emails for granted these days.

Be Committed

Do not go into a long distance relationship if you are not willing to commit to it fully and save yourself the frustration, anger, and pain. The hard truth is that there is no point enduring a long distance relationship if you do not mean it, if you are not fully committed to seeing it succeed.

Enjoy Your Independence

Being apart from your partner should enable you to grow as an individual while feeling and still remaining committed in a relationship. While you may see yourself as “attached” to your significant other, the distance provides room for you to grow and not lose your own identity. The happier you act with your life, the happier you will actually feel.

Continue going about your daily routine and stay busy. Enjoy your time alone and take up activity that will help make the days go fast and thus not having any time to mope.

Be Positive and Have Faith

Bring an air positive thinking into the relationship and focus on the positive aspects of it having faith and confidence in the survival of the relationship. Never make unnecessary assumptions without clarifying from your partner. If you have doubts about any issue do not interpret too much into it, instead call his/her attention to it and clear the air over such an issue.

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On a general note, relationships are often difficult to maintain even when the partners live in the same town and even when in the same house. Given this scenario, it becomes even more difficult when distance separate the partners. This distance may be because of one of the partners leaving far away for college, taking up a better job opportunity in another town, state or country, or going an expedition, etc.

Research suggests that long distance relationships do not break up at any greater rate than traditional, geographically close ones. In addition, several studies have discovered that the levels of relationship satisfaction, intimacy, trust, and commitment of long distance relationship partners are identical to those of their geographically close counterparts. However, they might worry more about infidelity, but they do not actually cheat more.

It is also an obvious fact that long distance relationships are much easier when you have known the other person for quite some time before the separation by distance. Those that have spent some months or years in a committed relationship will do fairly better in a long distance relationship as they already have a foundation on which to continue building on as against a new couple starting out afresh.

Long distance relationships are definitely on the rise but that does not mean they are for everyone. For those who really want it to work and are determined to find out where it can lead, developing a few disciplines and adding some creativity like the few listed below into this type of relationship can make all the difference.

Clarify Expectations

What are your expectations in this relationship and what rules do you have in place to guide you to seeing them accomplished. Do not just hope all things will work out right, have goals and a time-frame for their accomplishment. This will give the relationship a hope to live on. Do not push this aside; it is important you have a good plan of where you are both heading with this relationship.

Trust

This is the most important ingredient to make a long distance relationship work. The biggest issue with non-face-to-face communication is the lack of facial expression. This makes it so easy for words to be misinterpreted but unfortunately much harder to trust and stay positive. Since both of you are practically miles apart and apparently leading separate lives, without this element of trust, there is no chance whatsoever of the relationship surviving the turmoil in this kind of relationship.

Be Interested

There must be a sense of true interest in one another. There must be a deep-seated emotional connection between both of you and this is whether you have been together before you separated or you met through some other means like online dating services, email, or online chat rooms. It is not just about the physical attraction, this interest must transcend the ordinary, as it is the foundation of this relationship.

Make Advance Plans on Regular Visitations

Depending on the distance between you, it is advisable to discuss and plan on how often you intend to see each other. For this visit include activities like visiting towns where your partner is in, spending the weekend in fancy hotels, and general activities that will help make the meeting memorable.

Set Ground Rules

There are bound to be differences of opinion and you should anticipate changes in the course of the relationship. It is important you talk through these anticipated challenges and set ground rules for dealing with them from onset of the relationship. When you have these rules in place, it becomes easier to handle these challenges when they arise than when you leave them up to chance.

These rules may include things such as “no flirting while apart”, calling or emailing at least once a day or as deem fit by both parties, setting a time to see each other may be once in every one or two months etc. They may not seem necessary and too obvious but it is essential that you both have these agreed upon mutually.

Be Open and Express Yourself Always

While sharing the day-to-day events of things going on in each other lives, try talking about mundane, ordinary happenings, which will help in creating an air of normalcy in the relationship. Chip in details about an appointment you had with a new client, a new route you took to work today because of the traffic, and trivial things such as the turkey sandwich you had for lunch and probably how wonderful they cook at a new restaurant two blocks away from your Aunt Maureen’s place.

Send a Handwritten Letter

It is often easier to write more about how one feels than it is to say it most of the time, so occasionally write an extensive and intimate letter to your partner. Write about your inner state, what you are feeling, what you dream about most, a new inspiration or idea you just got, new or interesting poetry just for him or her or other things going on in your life that you feel like sharing.

To be more romantic, you could use a snail mail service to send your writings to your partner and include articles or local stories in the dailies that might be of particular interest to him or her. The beauty of seeing a mail in your mailbox from your loved is just exhilarating, as we have taken emails for granted these days.

Be Committed

Do not go into a long distance relationship if you are not willing to commit to it fully and save yourself the frustration, anger, and pain. The hard truth is that there is no point enduring a long distance relationship if you do not mean it, if you are not fully committed to seeing it succeed.

Enjoy Your Independence

Being apart from your partner should enable you to grow as an individual while feeling and still remaining committed in a relationship. While you may see yourself as “attached” to your significant other, the distance provides room for you to grow and not lose your own identity. The happier you act with your life, the happier you will actually feel.

Continue going about your daily routine and stay busy. Enjoy your time alone and take up activity that will help make the days go fast and thus not having any time to mope.

Be Positive and Have Faith

Bring an air positive thinking into the relationship and focus on the positive aspects of it having faith and confidence in the survival of the relationship. Never make unnecessary assumptions without clarifying from your partner. If you have doubts about any issue do not interpret too much into it, instead call his/her attention to it and clear the air over such an issue.

Love and Respect

There are so many mixed emotions swirling around the need for respect and love. People are always looking for both and ending up with one or none. Why is that?

Well, for one thing, love is often given without thought, whereas respect has to be earned. How many times have you heard someone say, “I don’t know why I love so and so because I don’t even like him or her?”

Then there’s the confusion between love and lust. There aren’t a lot of people who can distinguish the difference between the two in the early stages of a relationship. And even after the relationship has had time to mature, it’s still difficult to ascertain the difference between love and sex if you are still having sex with your partner.

But, respect is different. If nothing else, you can feel when someone respects you. You can feel validated by that person. It’s not just hearing pretty words because those pretty words have to be backed up by actions. It’s the actions that tell you whether you’re being respected and you can’t keep telling someone you want their respect; you have to earn it.

If your boundaries are consistently being crossed, you don’t have the respect you’re looking for. All the “I love you’s” in the world won’t diminish the lack of respect you feel when you know that someone keeps taking advantage of you.

When someone keeps undermining you or criticizing you without offering a way to fix the problem, you know that this person just wants to vent but doesn’t respect you enough to help you resolve the problem or change the status quo.

Many a criticism is said in jest or said in such subtle ways that you don’t even realize what it is. You only know that you don’t feel good about yourself but you can’t figure out why. And you can love that person deeply, yet not respect him or her or feel respected by him or her.

Are your opinions sought or do you have to keep them to yourself? Do your opinions count in your relationship or are they ignored? When you are in a relationship, one of the most sensitive aspects is the sharing of ideas and plans that involve the two of you. If only one of you is making most of the decisions that are affecting both of you, then you are not being respected, regardless of the reasons being given by your partner.

If respect matters to you more than love, walk away from someone who doesn’t show it with definitive actions. If love matters more to you than respect, at least try to feel that your love is being returned in equal measure. The important thing is that you know what you’re looking for in a relationship so that you can identify it when you feel it or notice the absence of it when it is lacking.

Connie H. Deutsch is an internationally known business consultant and personal advisor who has a keen understanding of human nature and is a natural problem-solver.a

4 Things the Holy Spirit Taught Me About Relationships

Here are four new things that I learned through the Holy Spirit recently:

1. Conviction or Condemnation

A person who we have a grievance with is either going to hear from God’s Spirit or from God’s enemy.

If they hear from God’s Spirit they’ll be convicted to make right what has been done wrong. If they hear from God’s enemy, on the other hand, they will condemn the other party. There is no learning, no blessing, and no hope in the latter. But reconciliation is probable in the former situation.

2. We Are Comforted to Comfort Others With the Comfort We Received

A principle of 2 Corinthians chapter 1 gives us the purpose behind suffering. It’s a truth that ought to never be rejected as cliché.

Only those who have trodden a particular road can truly empathise with others who are on the same road. But to have suffered and surrendered is a spiritual gifting with universal reach for ministry. We have something to offer someone when we have reached a place where nobody’s explanation of our situation made any sense at all, least of all our own. In that liminal space we discovered only God’s invisible powers mattered.

When ministry transcends words, and where answers or advice cease to have value, we are able to ponder the questions. It’s only questions that have any value when there are no answers; when life has taken us onto a road of mystery.

3. Don’t Use the Force of Telling – Learn the Gentleness of Asking

Nobody responds to telling, and the giving of advice generally falls flat, even in those seeking advice, because advice rarely hits the same mark for the other person as it does for us.

Asking people questions invites them into their response of reflection.

Asking questions doesn’t offend people and it keeps space free for the Holy Spirit to communicate what only the Holy Spirit can.

4. Nurture the Pastoral Heart and Use It

Hugging people has become a tricky business nowadays, with issues of abuse and safety rife in the church.

But offering people the reciprocation of their intimacy is both kind and generous.

For those we are safe to love – those generally of the same gender and age – we should nurture relational blessings. For the opposite gender and for those who are vulnerable we should be warier, but demonstrations of kindness and generosity in public, especially when they are initiated by others, are generally safe.

Whatever we do in ministry we are best to nurture a pastoral heart.